Kaden's mother has pushed me too far...

Here's something to chew on. The agreement was to have the little guy Christmas day and thru the weekend. Kimmie and I were excited as we had this elaborate plan for him that day to pretend that Santa Actually came and ate cookies and drank the milk. We had the tree all decked out and his presents were all ready to go, nicely tucked under the tree. You had to be here to see it. I get a call Friday morning on their way up expecting to hear that they were close. Come to find out that they not only got a late start, but his mother had actually planned on coming into town pack up and leave again. This would leave me with the little guy for 2.5 hours and she would again roll out. When i heard this, I was so irrate and was filled with so much rage I could barely control myself. I spent the next hour trembling because
I was so mad. I don't think I've ever been so mad at someone. You know...what did I ever do to have her treat me like this. The question is, why would she do that to Kaden? Why would any parent deny the time with their Father especially on Christmas Day!! She basically had denied my so called 'right' to see my son for the agreed amount of time. This is so frustrating. I kick my self for ever dealing with this woman. If you aksed me anything that I ever regret in life...Carrie Howard would be it. My son is a blessing, but I can tell this will be a battle. Going to see legal help this week. Let's see what happens...

What to do...

I'm struggling with the fact that my sons mom refuses to put my son In preschool because it simply does not fit her schedule in retail. I have offered to help out as much as I can and he shoots down any idea that I have that would be in his best interest. They moved up here from Grants Pass, Oregon 2 months ago and now, she's moving away again because she simply can't afford to live In Portland anymore. The sad part of this is that I found out fom my 5 year old that they were moving secretly and I wasn't supposed to know. Is it legal for her to just up and move with 5 days notice? A judge once stipulated that she was to give me 60 days notice and once again she is moving with no regards to how I may feel about the situation. She has stuggled to work 30 hours per week and calls in sick all the time when she isn't. The child support that I provide for my son is not being used for him and she has been using it for her own shortcomings. This is completely wrong and I am so frustrated. She doesn't provide him with the nessecaties that a child should have. In Grants Pass, she has her parents that watch him all the time, but again refuses to put him in school. Her exact words were, " he doesn't need preschool". Should I push for full custody? I am completely confident that my wife and I can provide a better life for him than he can. At this point she can't afford to feed herself. What are my options?